For several years, Theresa and I tried unsuccessfully to get pregnant.
Month after month, disappointment after disappointment
Eventually we decided to seek the assistance of fertility specialists and we began a series of IVF procedures.
After 2 miscarriages and 10 IVF procedures...
we were blessed with two beautiful children…
But infertility treatment can be tough on a marriage…
It takes something beautiful.. conceiving a child and turns it into a series of highly stressful clinical procedures...
And that can really take a toll on a couples intimacy and marriage.
And it certainly took a toll on our marriage.
And after years of conflict, fighting, and therapy…
It was clear that a divorce was inevitable.
I remember thinking...
This has got to be one of the worst days of my life.
I felt like I couldn’t even be a psychologist anymore…
Like I couldn’t help anyone with their relationship since mine fell apart…
I was just ready to give up.
My whole world was turned upside down and I've sunk into a deep depression.
I was going to stop counseling altogether and just focus on academics and teaching psychology at the university.
But then one day...one of my good friends came to me.
She was asking for help getting over her ex-boyfriends…
You see, she had been in a relationship that wasn't good for her and she realized she needed to move on...
But she felt like she couldn’t...it was too painful to lose him.
She would tell me things like...
“I can’t stop thinking about him…”
“Everything I do reminds me of him and it’s just making it worse.”
“I feel like I’ll never be happy again.”
So although I was almost ready to stop working as a relationship coach
I figured I could still help my friend get over her ex.
So we started having some calls and I basically ended up giving her three simple steps.
I knew that if she did these three things…
She would be able to get over him and start feeling happy again and eventually...
She could start looking for the right guy for her.